How to sex drive back in sexless relationship
HOW TO GET YOUR SEX DRIVE IN A SEXLESS RELATIONSHIP To be in a relationship or marriage could mean different things to different people. To some it means never having sex or the sex used to be exceptionally hot but now gone down the drain. For others is like once every Halloween. Basically the sexual relationship between 2 people under commitment is on an extra void zone. Even if you don't agree with my definition. Relationships without sex are as common as waakye joints on near the gutter. Most couples atleast 20% of them are having sex once a month if not a year. So today I bring u these tips to atleast try out. WHAT CAUSES THIS? Kids, schedules, exhaustion, rejection, blame, finances, boredom. A never ending list. Choose your choice. Then you've got a recipe for less communication and a lot of unexpressed hurt feelings. ASK YOURSELF, what changed between you both, did you use to have it as often as possible and just drove of the mountain? What about when you guys used to talk about sex and adventures involved. How can anything interfere with sex? First, you're exhausted, and then your routine changes. After that, your sexual habits change, so you do more of this and less of that. Over time, the excitement fades and so does the anticipation. Finally, everything stops, including the excuses. WHAT TO DO? - figure out what you need and what you want to do. - talk about it. Is very hard to talk about lack of sex in a relationship but you still have to try. listen to your partner's perspective without the finger pointing, blaming, or yelling? -Check in with your partner. How do they feel? What's going on with them? - your biggest fear is what happens after you address it. Fear of them leaving you. If anyone is going to break it off with you for addressing an issue that makes you unhappy in a relationship then that relationship should have ended long ago. Don't be stupid enough to stay. - if you sense that your spouse doesn't know what to say but is listening to you without getting defensive, perhaps you can tell them how important it is for you to hear what they're thinking and feeling right now. - Ask what they think you can do as a couple to move forward from this stuck point. Does your spouse want to move forward together? Would they be open to suggestions, such as seeing a professional counselor, a couples therapist, or sex therapist? Whatever you do, don't shelve it. Keep the dialogue going. WE LEAVE in a society where therapists are down played but they are very important - solve it together as a couple. It helps restart the love you had in the beginning.