MAKE A CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO PLEASE YOUR PARTNER
I was only 19 years old then, the sex lasted a little over 30mins ; straight up D and P, constant hammering of her inner walls the entire time. When it was all over and we had moaned and screamed our vocal chords out of existence, we collapsed onto the bed. The look on her face and in her eyes was not what I wanted. She looked relieved rather than something in my head I had imagined she will look. I ddnt have a word for it and I still don’t. But I imagined something magical and out of this world in her. That was not what I saw in her eyes. It was simple, find a way to let her feel and look the way I wanted her to. The following helped; it cuts across for both men and women. 1. Get VOCAL- talking about sex freely and openly about sex with your partner enables them to be more comfortable during intercourse. It doesn’t have to be direct like asking them, what position or how do you like to be touched. Let the element of surprise stimulate the mind, it gets their senses flowing differently. A little dirty talk here and there can easily bring out what they like and dislike without being direct. 2. MAKE LOVE- sometimes we are so into what we enjoy sexually that we forget about the other person without knowing. Make love to your partner. When you love someone genuinely, you sometimes easily put their happiness before yours. And this is one of those times. Learn to make love to your partner, study their body language, the response to your touch, squeeze, stroke tease. Dear women, your man is probably going to give it to you hard because that’s what most men grow up to believe as an alpha male, it’s your duty to slowly usher him into the making love realm without him feeling bored at it. NOTE: it’s going to get him to ejaculate quicker in beginning but be patient, when he masters, is a different thing altogether. 3. TOUCH: there are more exogenous zones on your partner, it is not just about breast, penis and vagina. Learn to explore the body, almost every part of a human being can be made to activate their sexual senses, if and only if you touch it exactly how it is supposed to be touched in the right way and moment. 4. SHARE: learn to share your sexual fantasies and experiences without judgement. Not all experiences should be voiced tho, know whom you are dealing with. Some people just don’t know how to play. 5. DO NOT HOLD BACK: during sex do not restrict yourself. If you are not being free enough to scream or moan during sex, you are with the wrong partner. You both should not be fucking. Is a shared experience, shared intimacy, shared moment. Learn to let loose.